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FILLY, LONG SHOT, NAG SCALE (FLN SCALE)
| MENTALITY | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | |
| 1. | I don’t hold on to anger very long. | |||||
| 2. | I don’t see myself as a victim in life. | |||||
| 3. | I am responsible for my own happiness. | |||||
| 4. | I have positive feelings about sex. | |||||
| 5. | I accept my mates for who they are. | |||||
| 6. | I have activities or hobbies I enjoy. | |||||
| 7. | I go for what I want. | |||||
| 8. | I bounce back when things go wrong. | |||||
| 9. | I have learned to forgive. | |||||
| 10. | I prefer being in a relationship than being alone. | |||||
| 11. | I am able to look at my own flaws. | |||||
| 12. | I like to give and receive affection. | |||||
| 13. | I have had a one year relationship. | |||||
| 14. | I don’t give up very easily. | |||||
| 15. | I know how to compromise. | |||||
| 16. | I am happy with myself. | |||||
| 17. | I don’t have a fear of failure. | |||||
| 18. | I can admit when I am wrong. | |||||
| 19. | I have a positive outlook on life. | |||||
| 20. | I can communicate my feelings. | |||||
| TOTAL= |
Check the box that best describes how you feel most of the time.
1=strongly disagree 2=disagree 3=neutral 4=agree 5=strongly agree
Measure your relationship readiness by finding your score and age category to determine your lane (mentality + age=lane). If your mentality score and age are on the same line, so is your lane. However, if there is a discrepancy between your mentality and age, consider yourself in the middle lane. For instance, if you are age 25 with a Nag mentality, or age 45 with a Filly mentality you’re a Long Shot in the middle lane.
MENTALITY AGE LANE
69-100=Filly age 20-29 fast rack
37-68=Long Shot age 30-39 middle lane
20-36=Nag age 40 or older slow lane
Taken from Long Shot: beating the odds to love and happiness by Stephanie Livingston, PhD
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